British Snoring & Sleep Apnoea Association

Hi all,

I am new here...... and a suffering wife.

My husbands snoring has resulted in us having to sleep in seperate beds. I can hear him clearly even with earplugs in, when my mum came to stay the christmas before last she honestly thought it was a motorbike starting up!

We need a short term solution for the end of the month as I am taking him to New York for a week and am not sure how I am going to get away from the noise, short of sleeping in the corridor!!

And obviously in the longtedrm if anyone has any ideas they would be much appreciated!

S

Steenied,

Short term is difficult, lots of snoring treatments out there some work for some, some just don't work.

Longer term send hubby off to the doctor to have his throat, nose etc looked at. Does he snort and have brief quite periods during sleep? Does he get up during the night frequently to use the loo? Is he sleepy during the day? Get him to do the epworth test http://www.circlecity.co.uk/sleepdesk/epworth_sleep_test.php and take the result to the doctor if the score is high.

Best option for your New York trip, get some better ear plugs,try Boots or if you have a local gun shop they will sell some really good ones.

Good luck
Paul

Hi
my husband had a really bad snoring problem for 10 years i was telling another lady it nearly broke our marriage up i just couldnt cope anymore.we tried eveything nearly on the market and nothing worked.My husband even went to the london clinic to see about the operation you can have and they said it would never work for him.To be honest i just gave up and i told him i wanted a divorce,i just couldnt cope with the snoring,not sleeping in the same beds,the kids always moaning and the constant disturbed sleep even with him in the other bedroom.I told him to find an answer or i would file for a divorce.About two months went by and we had a family wedding so we stayed in a hotel over night and i slept fine.the next day when he took the children and i home he asked me if i slept ok then i realized he hadnt snored.that was it i drove him mad to tell me what he used but he still didnt give it away,he said let me stay for 3 nights if i dont snore can i come home.This is how its been for months the snoring balls actually worked.It saved my marriage and you know what after all those years i can finall live a normal life again give it a try adkinssnoringaid [dot] com you cant loose.

I am in the same situation at the moment. I know i snore, normally when ive been out with the girls and had a drink, but, my husband refuses to accept that he snores sooooo bad. His head only just hits the pillow before it starts and it carrys on getting louder and louder all night until about 5am when he suddenly stops. He has started holding his breath now and has had a referral to a sleep clinic but wont go because he snores!!!!

Ive had 3 nights of very little sleep and we have just had the mother of all barnys.

Im ready to buy a shed and sleep in it myself as i can hear him all over the house but he says that i have the problem!!

Im really at the end of my tether and being a psychy nurse i know how sleep deprivation can affect people. Its affecting me..

I just want to cry.

I had a sleep study a few years ago and the consultant simply asked if the cpap machine helped me sleep any better. I said it did and I was supplied with a machine which I have used ever since. My sleep apnoea was only mild and the pressure setting is on the minimum but I think the biggest benefit is that it stopped me snoring completely even when I have been out for a few pints. My wife never complained about my snoring as when she falls asleep, its more like being in a coma but if you are a light sleeper then loud snoring will destroy your life. The answer is simple: get your husband connected to a cpap machine and the snoring will stop like magic!

Hi
I've just been reading your posts and I'm interested in speaking to some of you guys. I work for a television production company and we are currently looking for people who have problems with sleep whether it be snoring, sleep apnoea, narcolepsy or another form of issue which is having an affect on their partner or family.
If any of you are interested in speaking to me further regarding this it would be great to hear from you. Please feel free to email or call me on 0207 438 8159 or lynsey.wylie@whizzkid.tv

I hope to hear from you soon

Thanks
Lynsey

Hi - as a bloke who snores and for years made my wife suffer - i can say how truely horrible it must be for you.

Look if this is SA - then it's serious - so we need to get your husbands to wake up - if you pardon the pun !

I nearly ended dead ! my SA was soooo bad by the time i was treated i got a machine in 2 weeks from the NHS - by blood oxygen levels were so low they could have killed me (we are talking 40% ish) - low enough to kill ! - now they probably aren't that bad - but they need to know this could be serious !

Snoring isn't a joke it can be a sign of a lurking killer !

I don't want to scare you honest - but perhaps if they read this you might get them to the doctors

How about getting the neighbours on board to tell them or get a dictaphone from argos or even record it on your mobile phone - hey you could make it your ring tone (or camcorder if you have one) - hearing is believing!!!

http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/p ... APHONE.htm

I have undertaken sleep studies which have so far not provided any conclusive evidence that can be sent to the consultant. The first time I heard nothing and eventually went back to the doctor who then chased the consultant, who then saw me again and arranged another more in depth study. This came round and within a day the sleep clinic rang to say I needed to repeat it as the data was insufficient, which I then did. I checked back with them after a couple of days to say the results had been sent on to the hospital consultant, from whom I havent heard. It obviously not only affects me but also my partner, the solution is not proving easy to find.

I am very glad that it is not only me who is having these snoring problems. My partners snoring is extremely loud and wakes me up constantly, leaving me unable to go back to sleep as he continues to snore. Wherever I am in the house I can hear him. He also holds his breath for long periods of time, and then lets it out in a hugely loud rumble.
The problem has been intensified recently as we have had our first baby and, at two months, he sleeps in the same room as us. The baby also gets woken up by my partners snoring. We have been retreating to the spare room, but this always causes a huge argument the next day. My partner says he does not want a relationship where we don't share the same bed. I feel stuck in the middle because I don't want to upset my partner, but I also don't want the baby disturbed.
Last night was particularly bad and we had a huge argument this morning, which has left me completely drained and really upset, which is not helping me or the baby.
He had an appointment at a sleep clinic last year but never went. He says I am the one with the problem because I am paranoid about sleep, but I just want a good nights rest for me and our son.
Any suggestions to make him see things a bit more from my perspective? Thanks.

Hi there - record your husband and let him hear what he sounds like. Get him to read this site. Other than that, dump him. He is being totally selfish in thinking that he has the right to disrupt not only your sleep, but that of a new born baby. He is totally out of order, especially as he didn't bother to attend the sleep clinic.

It all seems one-sided to me - he doesn't want a relationship where you have separate beds - has he considered what you need rather than what he wants? You don't want to upset him, but he can upset you and your baby? You are the one with the problem - but it's him that is the problem.

Sorry if you feel I am being too harsh, but ...

Please help!

My boyfriend who i have lived with now for just over a year has gradually started snoring more and more. When we first met he only snored after having a night out drinking. He has put on some wieght but is now snoring everynight, he is also a very heavy breather. I have resulted in wearing ear plugs at night but a can still hear him snoring. I work as a secretary and have to wear a headset for work and am now finding that my ears are really sore inside. My boyfriend has tried nasal spray and strips but won't try any other form of snoring aid. I would be able to cope with the snoring but for the fact i am probably the lightest sleeper ever! The day after a particularly bad night's sleep i find myself being really irritated with him and the slighest thing can cause an argument i know it's because i am tired but i can't help it. When I try to talk about it seriously to him he thinks its amusing and says he can't help it! I've tried sleeping in the spare room but i can still hear him and besides i don't want to sleep in a separate bed from my boyfriend.

Any advice would be grateful.

Its very difficult. Snoring affects both of you and possibly you more so in this case. Like you say, the spare room isnt really anticipated in a relationship. This sort of problem though does put a huge strain on relationships. If you can get a sensible conversation about it perhaps suggest a visit to the GP. People are sometimes not comfortable with going or even 'troubling' the GP with such matters. Perhaps if he's accepting you could give him some literature on the subject or leave it around so he can see it is something that others go through and not a silly inconvenience to be overlooked.

Good luck.

Hello!

My boyfriend snores so loudly that it can be heard in from all over the house! As soon as he hits the pillow, the snoring starts and continues for most of the night, regardless of his sleeping position. There are periods of quiet but this is usually when I'm wide awake, unable to get back to sleep.

He works very hard until late at night and visits the States a lot with work which causes a disturbed sleep pattern, but he's always tired! He sleeps until mid morning at weekends and regularly takes afternoon naps (if and when he gets the chance!!) Could this be another symptom to some underlying problem other than just plain snoring?

We're off to Sydney in a couple of weeks, flying business class so we each get a bed and I'm really worried that he will start snoring on the plane and keep everyone else up! Ohhhh the embarrasment!!!!

Does anyone have any ideas?
Thanks!!

Right, boyfriend needs to see his GP and discuss what is causing him to snore, if anything medical is causing it, his daytime sleepiness etc. He should also remember to tell the doctor that the snoring is also affecting you.

As has been said in this thread Snoring affects both sides of the relationship.

It may be useful to get him to do the epworth test, see link post further up this thread, but to be of any use he must answer completely honestly. If the score is high then the GP should be made aware as there is likely to be an underlying condition causing sleep disturbance.

Have fun in AUS, if he snores on the plane just use ear plugs and pretend he's with someone else but seriously if he drinks alcohol that will make it worse as will sleeping tablets or other similar drugs try to avoid these.

Paul

Paul

The Divorce courts. He sounds horrible. How selfish can you get.